tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928117252460676054.post2027492777776322347..comments2023-10-16T07:48:09.724-04:00Comments on Renaissance Garden: Your Money or Your LifeCheriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06661705838389866476noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928117252460676054.post-89632905762816960022015-04-25T18:33:58.209-04:002015-04-25T18:33:58.209-04:00I'm with you, Cherie. I'd rather be sippin...I'm with you, Cherie. I'd rather be sipping tea and sleeping on sun-dryed sheets than working to pay for a dryer to do it. I hope your wise post is read by a wide audience because you sure do speak the truth from the heart.rhonda jeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08962112306968959985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928117252460676054.post-23250264003445475002015-04-25T09:16:15.112-04:002015-04-25T09:16:15.112-04:00David, the expenses associated with both parents w...David, the expenses associated with both parents working do tend to cancel out the extra income received. I believe most - not all - families work to buy things they don't need, at the expense of family time and togetherness. <br /><br />As far as hanging out your laundry, I've been hanging a lot of mine indoors for a while. I use one of those folding racks in my bathtub plus hand some clothes to dry on hangers in my laundry room. That way the neighbors don't see it. :) Heavy, thick fabrics don't dry well this way but most do. I also dried some items on my back deck, draping them over chairs and side rails, like they do in places like Europe and Brazil.Cheriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06661705838389866476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928117252460676054.post-39535708744811021242015-04-25T09:05:56.565-04:002015-04-25T09:05:56.565-04:00April, I used to get glassy-eyed looks from people...April, I used to get glassy-eyed looks from people upon learning that I "just" stayed at home, taking care of the kids. They never made the connection between the jobs they paid nannies and daycare workers to do and the work I did. We decided early on that it didn't make sense for both of us to work when the expenses associated with a two-income family would essentially take all of my salary. I wish our society was structured so that pay was equal for men and women, benefits were more accessible, and that one or both parents could spend more time at home, even with both working part time, fulfilling jobs. We talk about family values and then end up spending very little time together as families.Cheriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06661705838389866476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928117252460676054.post-73506590901437152832015-04-25T08:58:19.054-04:002015-04-25T08:58:19.054-04:00EcoCatLady - in a previous life, I lived in one of...EcoCatLady - in a previous life, I lived in one of those neighborhoods that was mainly populated by workers - nannies, housekeepers, lawn and pool maintenance workers, contractors, etc. There were a few of us who stayed at home but even we sometimes had workers to care for our things. My husband would work long hours at the office - an office where the parking garage was filled with luxury cars into late hours while those who owned moderately-priced cars were home with their families. Not a good way to live.Cheriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06661705838389866476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928117252460676054.post-24021502598182483372015-04-24T10:00:32.354-04:002015-04-24T10:00:32.354-04:00Cherie, there's so much truth in what you say ...Cherie, there's so much truth in what you say in this post. I've been to marriage seminars that have actually analyzed the benefits of two parent incomes and just how much the second parent's income actually adds to the coffers of the family. The added expenses just being in the work force reduces the hourly wage to almost no added benefit unless the second person has a really high paying job. The dynamics of the family suffers greatly from two absent parents and even when they are at home, they are trying to catch up with home responsibilities. When scientifically analyzed the benefits of two working parent families just doesn't add up to a better life. Now that's not to say in some cases it's must for a time but to extend it beyond necessity just to have more stuff is a family tragedy. <br /><br />One of the nice things about country living is the ability to do things like hanging laundry without any one seeing it. In the urban city not so true. I'm not sure I'd want to hang out the laundry to save electricity here. <br /><br />Have a great choosing life over money day.Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00571521947867768070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928117252460676054.post-8156429820225581432015-04-23T22:27:13.463-04:002015-04-23T22:27:13.463-04:00I have been asked by family (and sometimes strange...I have been asked by family (and sometimes strangers upon first meeting) why I don't have a job outside the home. My answer is that I don't see a point in working just to pay child care when I can stay home with my kid. Why pay for something I don't need and can do myself? If I had already had an established career with plenty of benefits and that I enjoyed things might be different, but I'm glad I chose staying home with my kid rather than slaving away at a job to pay for his care. I have no problem with families that with two working parents, but that wasn't the path for us at this point in our lives. I don't think we would be this close to getting out of debt if not for me staying home with kiddo.<br /><br />Phil and I have also discussed buying a trailer and some land or renting an apartment until we can afford/are settled enough to buy a home for ourselves. The housing we're living in now is nice, but it's over priced and way more than we need. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18391404887283031394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2928117252460676054.post-81820011966318958032015-04-23T16:36:54.413-04:002015-04-23T16:36:54.413-04:00LOVE this post! I'm a HUGE fan of YMOYL - read...LOVE this post! I'm a HUGE fan of YMOYL - read it back in the 1990's and it had a huge impact on me. I feel exactly the same way about the time equation - I would soooo rather spend my time doing things myself than locked away somewhere earning money so I can pay someone else to do them for me.<br /><br />CatMan and I ride our bikes all over the city, and one of our regular routes takes us through a very posh area where people's garages are bigger than my entire house, and the houses themselves are like mansions. All of the homes have enormous beautifully landscaped yards and there are fancy playgrounds and decks, and play sets for the kids. <br /><br />The thing is... the only people we ever see there are the workers hired to keep it all looking beautiful. For all the many times we've ridden there, I've never once seen a child enjoying any of that fancy playground equipment, or a family actually cooking on their fancy BBQ sets, or sitting around their fire pits, or enjoying the flowers, or ANYTHING!<br /><br />Then I come back to my neighborhood and there are people everywhere! Kids are always outside playing in the streets or the drainage ditch, people sit outside on a few cheap lawn chairs or on their porches, kids walk to school, guys are outside working on their cars, people are busy tending their gardens or hanging laundry or fixing up their houses, and the few parks we have are always packed with people grilling out, playing tag & just enjoying life.<br /><br />I dunno... it all makes me wonder who the "wealthy" ones really are!EcoCatLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15704811319510740473noreply@blogger.com